To See or Not To See?...That Is The Question.

When I consult with my brides and start talking about their wedding day timeline, I begin by asking them the first important question, "What time is the ceremony?"-- which always gets a confident and prompt response from the bride.  Then the second most important question, "Will you be doing a 'First Look' before the ceremony?" Then all of a sudden, as if I started speaking Greek, they stare blankly and then a puzzled expression appears on their face.  What, did I say something wrong? Do I have muffin crumbs on my face?

I've seen this expression way too many times and I immediately begin to explain what a "First Look" all entails.  For those of you who need some clarification, a "First Look" is when the bride and groom meet up and see each other for the first time; the groom looking dapper in his tux and the bride looking like a stunning white-vision in her dress.  Now, as a photographer, I find myself conflicted with the idea of the "First Look".  So below I've decided to play the Devil's advocate and compiled several reasons supporting both sides as to why a "First Look" is a good idea or a bad one.  So take them with a grain of salt and you be the judge.  Because the way I see it, no matter what you decide to end up doing,  I'll always be there to capture the moment one way or another.  ;) 


1. It's an intimate moment just between the bride and groom.  It's the one time during the entire day where there are no other distractions and you can be at peace with each other, even if it's just for 10 minutes before the hubbub ensues.

2. It allows you both to calm your nerves and get the butterflies out.

3. Helps you to get used to the photographer!  It's a great way at the start of the day to get accustomed to the creative direction of the photographer, and how he/she will want you to pose, kiss, etc.



1. It's Traditional!  Up until the past (not even) 5 years, it was considered bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the ceremony.

2. There's just not enough time to fit it into the schedule of events for the day.  (Because, let's be honest, what wedding actually starts exactly on time?)

3. It feels too staged and not a raw capture of the initial reveal.  Some may even argue, that when the bride and groom see each other for the SECOND time at the altar, the emotions are more subdued.